Lesson 07 Turning Toward One Another

Let’s start off by talking about what it means to turn towards one another.  Turning towards one another means to interact with your spouse instead of brushing them off, even in moments that may seem to be little or unimportant.  When I was first married, I worked long hours.  I was working 12 hours a day, 6 days a week.  I would get home at about 9pm and just want to relax and have some time for myself.  My wife on the other hand was so excited to see me that she would immediately begin asking me how I was doing, how my day was, and tell me how much she missed me.  At the time, I felt annoyed by her actions.  I thought to myself, “Can you please leave me alone for 15 minutes?!”.  It wasn’t that I wasn’t excited to see my wife, I just wanted some time where I could just be by myself.  Looking back, I wish that I had understood that my wife was turning towards me and wanted to connect with me.  One of the biggest challenges of turning towards your spouse, is realizing how selfish you are with your time.  In order to turn to one another, it will require sacrifice of your time.  It will require you to make a conscious decision to be more involved with your spouse, and not just be idly standing by.  However, that sacrifice is well worth it because of the increased connection, trust, and compassion that you have for your spouse.  Its amazing what giving up a little bit of time for yourself will do for a relationship.